Yeah yeah yeah...every marriage blog and their mom wants to recommend 5 fun date ideas to you. But no one ever wants to talk about how expensive they are! Also, most of those date ideas are kinda stupid, so we came up with our own list.
With Annie taking some time off of work to take on a graduate program, we’ve had to get really creative about the kind of dates we go on. Date nights will always be a priority in our marriage, even though our wallets right now can’t really support the more conventional date ideas most of the time. That’s ok...we’ve found a few ideas that really work for us:
1. Monday Movies in Nature
2. Tuesday Tasty Video Nights
3. Wednesday Walk Abouts
4. Thursday Thurstay!
5. Fake Identity Friday
(On Saturdays and Sundays, just sleep in and go to brunch!)
I, Annie Vitalsey, don’t want to talk about money. I want to watch The Great British Baking Show. I want to read a book about robots. I want to go for a walk. I want to have a cocktail. I don’t want to talk about money.
But I do talk about money. A lot. In this first year of being married to Jack, I have thought, talked, and worried about money, probably more times than all the other years of my life combined. Why is that?
Don’t get your hopes up. This has nothing to do with Lemonade. We just love that song so much.
But now that we have your attention, let’s get in formation. (Okay, last one!)
The countdown (#four #sorry #iaintsorry) to wedded bliss is no longer months, but weeks. WEEKS. Are you pumped? Are you???
Our days have become a blur of seating charts and glitter and cha cha real smooth. So let’s talk about something silly. Let’s talk about wedding invitations.
Hey Party People,
Jack speaking. I’ve been tasked with writing a blog about something I really care about even though Annie is clearly the superior writer. I shall do my best to stick to what I know, which isn’t a lot. Here’s what I do know: I freaking love weddings. There’s just something about getting dressed up with all of your friends, celebrating love, and dancing the night away that always puts me in my happy place. When Annie and I got engaged, the thrill was even greater because we got to call all of the shots on how we would spend the most magical night of our lives.
Quite honestly, we’d already given it a lot of thought. What I loved about our planning process was that we came into it knowing that we were hell-bent on doing things our way. Annie hoped to undo the misogynistic patterns that have plagued standard wedding traditions for generations (classic Annie), while I hoped to examine something else that I found fascinating: how modern couples spend for weddings. Did you know that the average couple spends around $26,000? That’s right -- $26,000 just to get married. With that money, you can buy the new Toyota Rav4. You can also use that money for a down payment on a $700,000 house. I think it’s also worth noting that $26,000 was the average yearly income in 2008.
All that money...for just ONE night of partying.
Think about that. Doesn’t that sound wrong? I don’t mean to judge anyone for spending that kind of cash (live your truth!), but for Annie and me, that just doesn’t resonate with our values as a couple. I get it, a wedding is supposed to be your absolute special day. And in theory, you only marry once in your life, so dropping $26K might be appropriate for such a tremendous occasion. But does it really have to be this way? Does it take this much money to actually have an awesome wedding? Annie and I are led to believe that it does not.
Annie & Jack
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