Hey Party People,
Jack speaking. I’ve been tasked with writing a blog about something I really care about even though Annie is clearly the superior writer. I shall do my best to stick to what I know, which isn’t a lot. Here’s what I do know: I freaking love weddings. There’s just something about getting dressed up with all of your friends, celebrating love, and dancing the night away that always puts me in my happy place. When Annie and I got engaged, the thrill was even greater because we got to call all of the shots on how we would spend the most magical night of our lives.
Quite honestly, we’d already given it a lot of thought. What I loved about our planning process was that we came into it knowing that we were hell-bent on doing things our way. Annie hoped to undo the misogynistic patterns that have plagued standard wedding traditions for generations (classic Annie), while I hoped to examine something else that I found fascinating: how modern couples spend for weddings. Did you know that the average couple spends around $26,000? That’s right -- $26,000 just to get married. With that money, you can buy the new Toyota Rav4. You can also use that money for a down payment on a $700,000 house. I think it’s also worth noting that $26,000 was the average yearly income in 2008.
All that money...for just ONE night of partying.
Think about that. Doesn’t that sound wrong? I don’t mean to judge anyone for spending that kind of cash (live your truth!), but for Annie and me, that just doesn’t resonate with our values as a couple. I get it, a wedding is supposed to be your absolute special day. And in theory, you only marry once in your life, so dropping $26K might be appropriate for such a tremendous occasion. But does it really have to be this way? Does it take this much money to actually have an awesome wedding? Annie and I are led to believe that it does not.
When planning our engagement photos, we tried our best to avoid being too cringe/barf worthy. We succeeded for the most part, we think. We're pretty proud of what we posted in the gallery.
But, we're not always as grounded and glamorous as we appear. In the spirit of over-sharing, we want to show some of the photos we're still laughing about.
1. Annie Goes Jack [Way In The Back]
Annie & Jack
Love. Marriage. Teamwork. Art. Offsetting the patriarchal footprint. These are some of the things we're thinking about.