Friends, Family, Perfect Strangers…
Jack here. This blog post has been a long time coming, but please know that we haven’t stopped thinking about you. Married life has been wonderful so far and we currently have no plans on terminating the relationship anytime soon #squadgoals Charlotte has been an amazing town for our marriage. It’s kind of like if a big city and Durham had a baby (if you can picture that). We live pretty close to the downtown area, so we often take long walks into the city together. Annie just left for Tempe, AZ a few days ago and will be starting her MFA program at ASU soon. It is an exciting time!
But enough about us, let’s talk about you. Annie and I just wanted to take a moment to sincerely thank all of you for supporting this blog and celebrating our wedding with us. Whether you’re a family member who was at our wedding or a fan of the blog who we’ve never met before--please know that we love you dearly and that you matter to us.
Some special thank you notes:
It’s been so much fun sharing our story with you, we hope it’s helped (or entertained) you somehow. So you might be asking what’s next? That’s a good question…
First of all, check out all of the new site changes Annie has made on our website. The new wedding photos really spruce it up, don’t ya think? If you haven’t seen the wedding photos yet, feel free to check those out here. Although the wedding is over, Annie and I aren’t ready to say goodbye just yet--in fact, we’re far from done. After a lot of talking about the future, we’ve made the decision that we’re going to transition our wedding website into a full-on wedding/marriage/lifestyle blog. We’re really excited about it!
After our big day, we felt like we still had so much to say. So why stop now? As long as you’re still interested in reading, we’ll still be interested in writing. But even more than that, we passionately believe that exploring the ideas of marriage, weddings, and romantic conventions are so important for society, yet somehow completely undervalued. People spend tens of thousands of dollars for a marriage that has a 50%+ chance of failing.
When you really think about it, does marriage sound like a worthwhile investment?
By Wall Street standards, it’s the dumbest stock you could ever invest in. If marriage were a table game at a casino, literally no one would play. Yet people play and lose everyday.
We think it’s time for a change and we want to do something about it. We want to explore these ideas more with you. Yes, weddings should be cheaper. Yes, marriages shouldn’t fail so often. But really, it’s bigger than that. Annie and I want to send a simple, yet serious message:
We can’t offer our children a better tomorrow unless we fix the way we look at love today.
We want relationships to thrive. When relationships thrive, families are happier. When families are happier, more love enters the world. When more love enters the world, there’s less violence, less prejudice, less misogyny, and less votes cast for Donald Trump (just kidding, but only kinda). It’s easy to be cynical and morose about love and marriage. Heck, it’s even a comedic theme in a lot of movies these days. Isn’t that sad?
Annie and I want to live out the most happy and vibrant marriage possible. We’re not just settling for societal conventions, we’re embracing something deeper. We’re doing this thing our way. I mean, look at us! A month into marriage and now we're living in separate time zones (read more on that here). Yes, it isn’t a conventional choice, but we believe our marriage will be stronger for it.
That’s a pretty sexy hook, right? This could be a revolution of sorts. We’re unapologetically flying in the face of tradition. So, as we chronicle our risks, struggles, triumphs, and general musings in the coming months (and years--who knows?), we hope you’ll join us.
Here’s how you can help:
I know what you’re thinking, “Jack, doesn’t the title imply that we’re supposed to be receiving a gift of some kind? It looks like you’re just trying to swindle us into giving you free help...” Well, kinda. One could say that the gift is that we’re continuing the blog, but I couldn’t pull that off without you feeling cheated. Plus, we wouldn’t do that to you!
A lot of people have been asking about the wedding video. Don't worry, it’s coming and it will be beautiful. But what we do have now is our ceremony video and we’d like to share it with you today for your enjoyment :-) It truly was the most incredible day of our lives and we’re pumped for you to see for yourself. We hope you enjoy it!
Disclaimer: The video is literally just a guy with a camera in the back. We haven’t done any kind of editing to footage, but it’s a way for you (especially if you weren’t there) to see how we spent the day. Annie makes me cry, Kyle’s ring bear costume is hilarious, and it is completely worth watching if you can get past the production value. Huge thanks to Chris Bitsas and the Grace Church Tech Team for helping us out with this.
And as always, we love you. Help us fight the good fight, finish the race, keep the faith.
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Annie & Jack
Love. Marriage. Teamwork. Art. Offsetting the patriarchal footprint. These are some of the things we're thinking about.